Monday, June 6, 2011

Hatred Neutral Like & Love

What with it? Lets go through one by one.

Hatred (or hate) is a deep and emotional extreme dislike, directed against a certain object or class of objects.

Neutral feeling is a feeling in between hatred and like/love. Neither hatred nor like/love include in this feel.

Like generally as a verb like refers to a fondness for something or someone. Like can be used to express a feeling of attraction between two people, weaker than love and distinct from it in important ways. It does not necessarily imply a romantic attraction.

Love is an emotion of strong affection and personal attachment. Yes, love always go the other way unexpected. May be you should read Love checklists by Frog Princesz. It really amaze me.

Okay, back on track. What I really want to talk here is about what we do in daily life. Okay, simple question, do you love durian? Some say "euwwww smelly", some say "its ok but I don't really eat it", some say "oh sure" and some say "I want more!!". Haha.. May be this is not really a good example. But what I mean is once we saying something negative on it, we actually already did make that thing much more difficult, less exciting, tiresome, and bu bu bu bu~ ("bu" in Mandarin is a word that combine with other word that will bring negative or NO to the word if not mistaken. Please feel easy to tell me if I am wrong.)

Really, hatred will drag other negative thing together with it to us. But how about like and love? I like girls but I love a girl. I like money but I love making money. I am not pro about "love" one someone so I won't touch regarding it deeply right here.

Employer: Do you like this job?
Mr. A: Yes.

Employer: Do you love this job?
Mr. B: Yes.

No guarantee, but who do you think will do the best? Mr. A or Mr. B? Why? When it about love, a person won't give up and definitely struggle and keep trying to achieve his target. Never give up.

But how about a person that desperately have to work to support his family? Before this he hate his job, he will tired whole day. Yet, he need to keep work and work. But if he at least have neutral feeling on his job, will he feel extreme tired like before?

A song thats played on hallmark channel its goes like this:

hey baby don't forget
live a life with no regrets
you know you got to love this life
love your life
how can you be blue
when the world awaits for you
lovin your life
life life life is beautiful
love your life

Nice isn't it? :-)

I think this is end of my thought for now. Before that, let inspired by this quote:
" Cherish Yesterday-Live Today-Dream Tomorrow "

Saturday, June 4, 2011

Promise or Desire?

is a sense of longing for a person or object or hoping for an outcome. I ask myself, what are our desire in this life? Own sport car? Married with hot chick? Big house? Become a successful person? What is success?

But how about,

Promise is a commitment by someone to do or not do something. Once again I ask myself, how many promises that we have fulfilled? If we stop half-way how far have we done/try?

Basically it's like desire is willing with hope and promise is more like trying with effort. Does it enough to have just "WILL" with "HOPE" and "TRY" with "EFFORT"?

refers to the desire of an individual, and the acts done when such decisions are put into effect. The question here, how strong is our will? Strong enough to shake the world? Strong enough until it can break all doubt? Or easily stop by an obstacle?

Hope is the belief in a positive outcome related to events and circumstances in one's life. Does hope help us? Are we depending one hope? Have we try to put some effort to make it come true?

Try is an attempt to do or accomplish something. Is it only stuck at just "attempt" stage or until it "accomplish"? Personally, how do you define "try"? "Attempt" or "Accomplish"? That bring big different.

Effort. The etymology
from Middle French effort, from Old French esfort, deverbal noun from esforcier (to force, exert), from Vulgar Latin *exfortiare, from Latin ex + fortis (strong). And the synonym is struggle. "Strong" huh!?

What ever it is, I always
adherence to this principles:

"Expect the worst, do the best."

This things confuse me until I read a quote in a book named "Awaken the Giant Within" by Tony Robbins.

"Know that it is your decisions, and not your conditions, that determine your destiny."

"Promise or Desire"? Definitely NO! It is "Promise AND Desire"

I once almost give up on something. Then promise to myself to "disappear" in certain period. It is complicated. Unexplainable. But that how it goes. I got desire on it, I got promise on myself. But I choose promise more than desire at that time.

But now I know I should give up although it is almost impossible and waiting for miracle for my wish come true. Is it? No! I need both Desire and Promise! I am willing to continue although it is pain and hopeless. And the worst case, I might lose it! Am I stupid? What ever!! Why do I need to care about what others think about me? Am I crazy? Yes! Hahahaha!! I am crazy waiting and trying to achieve it every seconds. I put all my efforts on it. Will I succeed? Come on tell me, do you want to feel the  regret not put some "Promise and Desire" by considering the current conditions OR have a chance of success that might cause you happy and new experience if you fail??

I have decide although I am not perfect and still have tonnes of weaknesses inside me, I am going to proceed what ever it takes even I know I am near to failure. This is my destiny.